Not sure what to call the rule here. This is about men not hearing women, or maybe it’s not believing women. This past Monday morning I bicycled the Boston Marathon route back and forth with a group of friends. We rode the 26 miles from Boston to Hopkinton, the starting point for the race. While standing around taking a short break before heading back into Boston, I overheard one of the bicyclists, a woman, telling a couple of guys that “mice don’t co-habit with rats.” Apparently one of the guys had discovered mice in his house and she was trying to look at the positive side. If you’ve got mice, you don’t have rats. Lesser of two evils and all that. These two guys didn’t believe her. I don’t know why. I came over and said, “mice don’t co-habit with rats” and the guys say, “oh” as in oh, I didn’t know that and thanks for telling me. They believed me. They know this woman better than they know me. And she then says, “why don’t guys ever believe women? I just told you the same thing and you didn’t believe me and then he [me] comes along and says the same thing and you believe him.” This woman is a doctor. She’s an athlete. She’s not crazy. There’s no reason for them not to believe her.
Now, this resonated with me because I’ve heard the same complaint from my wife about me. And it’s true. She has made some statements that I think are preposterous and I say, “come on, that can’t be true,” but then if I see that same thing written the next day in a newspaper, I believe it.
Is this just a couple of random cases of guys not believing women or is this more of a cultural issue? I’m curious. I’m also guilty. So I need to change something here.